Designed Irrationally ..

How does it feel when a person whom you have known for years fails to understand you or worse still refuses to....? Hurt ,real hurt ...

Concern is only expressed when it is shown outwardly, or atleast for most people it is so.Again when we expect concern from somebody and its not expressed we get hurt...This hurt takes its form as anger, sadness, silence / indifference. Does logical justification /explanation or proving ones actions were of good intension help to pacify when people are hurt .. It mostly does not ..

People need understanding , people need space , people need time ..Not 100 odd reasons/proofs as to why you where right and how the other person dint sense their action in the way they expected. It hurts them more as it shows an indifference to the other persons emotions when justification is used immediately.While its always good to prove that you dint mean to hurt ,when to do this matters just as much as ...

Everybody has their right to have a notion about anybody else--its just like a basic right .Its best to leave not imagine or assume how other people perceive us when you are not sure about it (or good at it). Our actions / responses will vary we create a mental assumption that some one perceives in a particular way ...

We are all here to prove a point - why others were wrong , why we where right , why other person made us feel sad/upset etc etc..

How to and when to matters more than the point itself..We may be right but whats the point if it doesnt reach the other person ? Even if it does EGO stamps it and kills its brutally ..

Putting forward our views is difficult , more so when both sides are emotional .. Rationality just doesnt help here ... :( wonder why we were created this way , a VERY BAD DESIGN I guess...The world will be better off when people use their higher cognitive ability of reasoning all the time...

One needs to learn how to handle these situations .I need to learn for certain. Any suggestions?

PS- Random mood and hence such a random post ...

Rewind and rejoice ..

When I was a kid my daily night prayers was always the the same - let me wake up to brand new happy day in the world. World meaning MY small world ( quite a long list though ..family , extended family mostly and yeah "the rest of the world"). I used to run some kind of story in my head where I live with all these people who mean to me in secluded place which is very self sufficient and where there is only happiness.. imagining this little ideal world I used to just sleep..Fairytale like...!

Funny , thinking about this now for many reasons . These dreams ebbed away gradually with out any trace as reality sunk in .. So many questions in one little brain about the design of life..Why does everything have an end? Why do people just walk in and out of your life? Why happiness or sorrow? Why the disparities and differences ?Why do we live when we get out this world with nothing? Why is nothing permanent except change itself ?? ..

Probably life is just a crazy ride - with so many ups and downs, twists and turns; the actual purpose , path and destination really unknown; people come and go - some stay longer , some make more impact , some we forget.. We seek out reasons to explain everything around us or some just tag it as fate or whatever..Peoples priorities change with time ; we just move on busy with our own lives .. But there are moments when you just want to go back in time and re-live certain periods over and over again ..The best way to turn the silent tear to a joyful smile is by simple escapism into a dream land like a child or just freezing ; savoring the moments and replaying it as memories .. After all we do not posses anything excepts our own self

Long Time ,No Blog

Okay , Its been an year and no blog entries ! :P Just way too lazy to type what I had in my mind .. New year , new resolve to blog more regularly ! Lets see ;)

Now I do have a topic worthy enough of a debate.I had recently been to Indian Science Congress, the highlight of this mega event was the lectures by Nobel Laureates. It was very nice listening to Ada Yonath , Martin Chalfie , Venkatraman Ramakrishnan, Thomas Steitz.They shared their enthusiasm that they have towards their work and explanation of their research so that even a layman can understand something about it ! I liked Dr.Martins lecture most personally. Overall I liked the way it was organized except for fact that the whole of Chennai was full of banners- politicians who were attending with their flashy smiles everywhere.Somehow it irritates me too much when I think about how much money that's wasted on these and how it could be utilized in better way!

Okay, so much for introduction. The main spotlight was on "OUR OWN" Nobel Laureate Venki Ramakrishnan.I totally agree with him about how science is an international effort and nationality need not be associated with it ( Well, his comments about this is causing quite a stir.I dont find it reasonable to shout out that he was born here in Tamilnadu.. etc.. etc.. everytime when person doesnt like or enjoy being celebrated as a national pride or something)

Another issues was his stands on need for idols in science.To quote him , "Science needs ideas not idols".I partly agree and partly disagree (The ambivalent me :P ) While there is no need for idols in comparison to film star or sports personal , I guess it definitely helps to know what inspired them and how they were successful in doing good science ; what kind of questions they ask ; their thought process and way they approach a problem .

I had the opportunity to listen to Thomas Steitz and Venkatraman Ramakrishnan twice -once in ISC, once in IIT .I had no clue about it happening in IIT and it was much more fun !!

The difference's which made it more enjoyable-

1. The Talk itself - While ISC was like much more general one ,the lecture in IIT was much more technical yet simple enough to understand.Infact the whole PPT was different.There was more videos. One in Venki sirs lecture stole the show away ! The whole translation process and its molecular mechanisms with song clips finishing it with the song" We are the champions"..LOL crazy graduate student !! :) There was short clip in Thomas Steitz's lecure too for which he danced :D

2.The Organizers- There was almost 45 mins used up before the speakers got to speak in ISC.In contrast it was just 5 mins general intro, 2 mins about each speaker and then they spoke ! No restless audience shifting seats this way .. And even vote of thanks was short , the focus was only on the lecture not anything else.Another thing I noticed was that there was just one video camera for recording the lecture and one photographer clicking photos ( that too not when the speakers were speaking)

3.The Crowd- The crowd was much much better .Organizers instructed only once not to ask for autographs or photographs and the crowed obeyed . No ringing mobile phone , no loud chatting , no photograph sessions. There was even a question answer session at the end ! In contrast in ISC , people were more intent upon taking pictures with the laureates , getting the autographs without even listening to them ..With children its understandable but parents and elders pestering for autographs and messages to point of annoying the speakers is sad sight to see.

To discuss cool science , we need equally cool audience who are intent on content rather than just coming to lecture hall for " I met the laureate and got his/her autograph" attitude alone for show-off..!