Concern is only expressed when it is shown outwardly, or atleast for most people it is so.Again when we expect concern from somebody and its not expressed we get hurt...This hurt takes its form as anger, sadness, silence / indifference. Does logical justification /explanation or proving ones actions were of good intension help to pacify when people are hurt .. It mostly does not ..
People need understanding , people need space , people need time ..Not 100 odd reasons/proofs as to why you where right and how the other person dint sense their action in the way they expected. It hurts them more as it shows an indifference to the other persons emotions when justification is used immediately.While its always good to prove that you dint mean to hurt ,when to do this matters just as much as ...
Everybody has their right to have a notion about anybody else--its just like a basic right .Its best to leave not imagine or assume how other people perceive us when you are not sure about it (or good at it). Our actions / responses will vary we create a mental assumption that some one perceives in a particular way ...
We are all here to prove a point - why others were wrong , why we where right , why other person made us feel sad/upset etc etc..
How to and when to matters more than the point itself..We may be right but whats the point if it doesnt reach the other person ? Even if it does EGO stamps it and kills its brutally ..
Putting forward our views is difficult , more so when both sides are emotional .. Rationality just doesnt help here ... :( wonder why we were created this way , a VERY BAD DESIGN I guess...The world will be better off when people use their higher cognitive ability of reasoning all the time...
One needs to learn how to handle these situations .I need to learn for certain. Any suggestions?
PS- Random mood and hence such a random post ...
